Được dạy bởi Sư Yuttadhammo Bhikkhu Dịch Việt: Việt Hùng
Lời người dịch: Trong các bài Hỏi & Đáp như vậy, tôi sẽ chủ yếu dịch thoát ý, chứ không chặt chữ. Một mặt đây là việc tôi làm để có thể nghiền ngẫm phần trả lời của Sư Yuttadhammo. Một mặt, tôi chia sẻ lại đây, và hy vọng nó hữu ích cho các thiền sinh Vipassana tham khảo.
Mặc dù đã cố gắng tốt nhất trong khả năng của mình, tôi chắc chắn không thể ghi xuống được một cách chính xác 100% tất cả các từ ngữ, đặc biệt là các từ Pali mà Sư đề cập trong bài pháp. Tôi sẽ tiếp tục cập nhật bản ghi, bất cứ khi nào tôi thấy được những điểm còn thiếu sót.
Con xin thành kính đảnh lễ tạ ơn Sư Yuttadhammo về bài pháp thoại ngắn quí báu này. Con nguyện cho Sư được mọi thuận lợi và sức khoẻ trong hành trình tâm linh của Sư.
Question: Hi. Welcome back to Ask a Monk. Today’s question comes from JKIX22, who says, what is the best way when you’re starting out not to get frustrated? I can’t seem to keep my mind quiet enough.
One thing to say is that the best way to start out is to find a meditation center where you can undergo intensive meditation course. Because that’ll help you to work out a lot of the issues that you have, the frustration, the things that lead to frustration. When you’re with the teacher, you get a lot of direct explanation. And the intensity of the practice really allows you to overcome so much of what gets in your way in the beginning. There’s such a power to the practice that rather than being frustrated by the seeming endless stream of hindrance and difficulty. You feel encouraged by the fact that in a matter of days or weeks, you’re able to overcome it.
Barring that, or even when you do go to do a meditation course, it’s important to understand that you’re really, in a sense, answering yourself. The reason that you’re frustrated is because in this case or in generally, there’s a need to keep the mind quiet. There’s a judgment of the mind. The mind is not quiet. That’s bad. Therefore, I’m frustrated and therefore there’s something wrong. And that’s really the problem. That’s what we come to see in meditation. We’re not practicing meditation to attain the specific state of being, where the mind is always calm and peaceful. We’re trying to create a sense of ease and peace, but lasting peace, peace with where we’re able to be at peace with ourselves, at peace with the mind, where we’re no longer judging the state of mind.
What we learned in the meditation boils down to three things. We learn that everything inside of ourselves and in the world around us is changing. There’s nothing which is stable, which is going to always be in a certain way. There’s always going to exit or is never going to arise. Everything is uncertain and unstable and impermanent. The second thing is that both inside of ourselves and in the world around us, everything is necessarily unsatisfying. Because it’s impermanent, because nothing lasts. So there’s no one thing that you can hold on to and say that’s going to make me happy. There’s nothing in this world that can be the object of your true happiness. Happiness has to be unrelated to objects, unrelated to external phenomenon or unrelated to a specific experience. Happiness has to be a contentment that is able to experience all things equally as they are. And the third thing that we realize in the meditation is that both inside of ourselves and in the world around us, there’s nothing that is that belongs to us. And there’s nothing in the world that we can say is under our control that is truly ours. Because at best, we’re borrowing it or we’re in control of it for a short time and we’re only in control of it in a very limited sense, in terms of giving rise to certain effects based on the uncertain causes. We can’t force our minds to always be quiet. When we try, we find we only create tension and suffering. We can’t force pain to never arise. We can’t force happiness to stay. We can’t force things to always be the way we want.
It’s because we don’t see these three things, because we think that the world around us or certain things are permanent, that certain things are satisfying and certain things are controllable or under our control, that we create, we give rise to frustration. That we’re not satisfied, that we’re always seeking and searching and wanting and needing, that we’re not truly happy. So really, the answer to your question is that through the practice you will see that yes, you can’t keep your mind quiet and that’s a good thing. And when you realize, it’s a good thing to realize that. Because when you realize that and you realize that that’s the nature of it, rather than a problem, when you change, when your mind shifts. Because right now you’re in this conflict state and this is what happens when you meditate. It comes in conflict with the way you think things should be. You think that your mind should be controllable. You think you should be able to say stop thinking and the mind quiets down. And now you’re seeing that reality is not that way. You’re seeing the truth. And it’s clear from what you say. You can’t keep your mind quiet. The problem is you have this judgement saying that it’s not quiet enough. The question that you have to ask is quite enough for what? Is quite enough for your standards, for your judgment, for your need? And the problem is not the noise in the mind. The problem is your judgement of it is the fact that we say to ourselves, it’s not acceptable, it’s not quiet enough. Once you can accept the fact that it’s a part of nature and it’s created by your way of life, the things you have done to make it that way, then you start to realize that it’s not really a problem for say or it’s not your problem in the sense that you have to do something to fix it. It’s just not truly like that. And in fact, there is nothing particularly wrong with an active mind. That’s just the nature of it. The problem is that we feel the need for it to be in a different way. Once you can see it for what it is and let it be the way it is, you won’t become frustrated.
So in a sense, you’re actually practicing well. And it’s a sign that you’re actually doing things properly. The fact that you’re seeing that things are not the way that you thought they were. You’re seeing that the mind is not under your control. And slowly, as you practice in this way, you overcome your frustration. Right now, you’re fighting. And as you fight on and on and on, your mind slowly starts to give in, starts to say, OK, OK, OK, let it be the way it is. I can’t control it. And that’s just the nature. That’s not a problem. That’s the way it is. And then you stop trying to force things. You stop trying to control things. And that’s really a key to the realization of enlightenment in Buddhism.
So I hope that helps. And I’d like to encourage you, because from my point of view, your practices is quite clear and you’re on the right path. So just keep going. And slowly and patiently, you’ll be able to overcome this frustration. Try to say to yourself, frustrated and frustrated or angry, angry. If you’re thinking a lot, just say to yourself, distracted and distracted. So that you get to the point where you’re able to accept it and move on. OK, all the best.
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