I have read Change the question, change your life before and even bough quite a few paperback copies to use as gifts for my friend. And now, I read this book. I would agree that this simple yet powerful Choice map can change lives, not just for students, but also for adults. I myself many time run into Judger mode and if I don’t get out soon enough, it creates more troubles for me later on. The same principles can apply for building great corporate culture which I’m very keen on to share with everyone from that perspective. Certainly, I’ll ask my 10 year old daughter to read this book and I’m sure she’ll grow herself into a better person and can use Choice map as a base for her growth in the future as well.
For quite awhile, I didn’t write any blog post in English. Here comes one… Also, for years, I haven’t published any new slide to Slideshare. And here comes the one.
I believe the ultimate goal of any one of us is happiness pursuit. However, we usually lose that goal once we live through our lives. A happy life is quite simple, yet need a lot of courage, discipline, wisdom to “attain” that happy life. By sharing my thoughts here, I hope it can help you to live a happier life. Good luck!
Oops… forgot to mention that there are too many laws of nature that certainly we can’t learn all. The most important one for happiness is how our mind is working. Focusing on the right one matters.
I came out and share to the public about this topic and I’m willing to do more of it. If you’re interested in having me coming in (your office, your group, …) and share, we certainly can talk and arrange.
Hãy tự thưởng cho bạn những phút giây bình yên quí giá. Đơn giản là bạn chỉ cần tìm một nơi yên tĩnh và theo hướng dẫn trong đoạn thu âm sau.
Reward yourself those peaceful moments which are invaluable for free. Simply find a quiet place and follow the script here.
Tôi tình cờ đọc được câu chuyện dân gian của người Cherokee (một tộc người thổ dân Bắc Mỹ) đầy ý nghĩa này. Thấy câu chuyện quá ý nghĩa, nên tôi dịch sang tiếng Việt ở đây để có thể chia sẻ đến với mọi người. Phiên bản gốc tiếng Anh ở bên dưới nhé.
Hai con chó sói
Một cụ già người Cherokee dạy người cháu của cụ về cuộc sống. “Có một trận chiến đang diễn ra ở bên trong con người của ông”, cụ nói với người cháu trai.
“Một cuộc chiến kinh khủng con ạ, giữa hai con chó sói. Một bên là con chó sói của quỉ dữ… đó là hiện thân của giận dữ, sự thèm muốn, đố kị, sự khổ đau, nuối tiếc, lòng tham, sự kiêu ngạo, tự ti, cảm giác tội lỗi, sự thấp kém, dối trá, sự tự hào một cách giả dối, tự cao, tự đại và hiện thân của một cái tôi (tự ngã) to lớn.” Ông tiếp tục: “Con sói kia là một con sói tử tế. Nó là hiện thân của niềm vui, sự bình an, sự yêu thương, hy vọng, sự thanh thản, khiêm tốn, sự tử tế, tấm lòng nhân từ, rộng lượng, sự cảm thông, rộng rãi, chân lý, lòng trắc ẩn, và niềm tin.
Ở bên trong con người con cũng như bao người khác, ai cũng có cùng một cuộc chiến như thế đang xảy ra trong mỗi một giây phút.”
Người cháu suy nghĩ về lời dạy trong chốc lát và sau đó hỏi ông: “Vậy thì con sói nào sẽ chiến thắng?”
Người ông đáp một cách đơn giản: “Con sói mà con cho nó ăn.”
Vâng, chúng ta không thể đổ lỗi cho ai trong cuộc sống này về những gì chúng ta đang phải gánh chịu hoặc tận hưởng. Chính thức ăn tâm hồn mà chúng ta nạp vào hàng ngày là yếu tố quyết định cho những gì mỗi một chúng ta xứng đáng được hưởng ngay tại thời điểm bây giờ cũng như mai sau. Đọc tiếp “Hai con chó sói”
“Be, just be, being myself, be a part of this universe… Just be, nothing more, nothing less… So then I can experience everything that life can / has to offer.”From a young person between 22-30.
Wonderful, don’t you agree? Do you have your own answer? If you do, fill in the form as commitment for your own happiness. There are a few notes here:
- There is no such right or wrong answer to this question. The answer is for yourself to experience, for your own happiness.
- If you haven’t had the answer, start searching one for yourself and start stepping on your happiness journey.
- Being able to articulate the answer to this question is really a great step to commit to live up to the values that you think it would bring you happiness. Đọc tiếp “Happiness starts with the definition of it”
In order to become a great manager with effective leadership, we certainly need to invest a lot of time to… improve and develop ourselves first. I would say that’s always true. Whenever you stay still, not advancing yourself, that’s the moment you are really moving backward. As people are keep moving advance, once you stay still. As a leader, it’s even more critical for you to learn and experience more things to advance yourselves each and everyday. While it may sound a bit stressful, I believe this will give you more rewards than anything else can give you.
With nearly 20 years in the field, I would suggest that for whatever you do, you need to find the core principles underneath of what things are happening. Once you can see those core principles underneath, you will also see things clearer. I’ll take this chance to share the 13 principles that I’m currently reading from a book named 13 things mentally strong people don’t do. By just listing them here, I do hope it sparks some suggestions in you for how you would perceive this world and what is happening to you and around you:
- They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves
- They don’t give away their power
- They don’t shy away from change
- They don’t focus on things they can’t control
- They don’t worry about pleasing everyone
- They don’t fear taking calculated risks
- They don’t dwell on the past
- They don’t make the same mistakes over and over
- They don’t resent other people’s success
- They don’t give up after the first failure
- They don’t fear alone time
- They don’t feel the world owes them anything
- They don’t expect immediate results
Hope this is a meaningful gift for the new year, 2018. Happy New Year!
Bắt gặp anh cún ni đang rất chăm chú chuyên môn và nhớ lại một bài học từ Sư Ajahn Chah. Chỉ là cục xương, không còn gì thực sự bổ béo nữa, nhưng ảnh rất chăm chú mần việc. Rất lâu.
Chúng ta cũng thế. Thường hay nhìn thấy bản thân cute / dễ thương như con cún này, đắm say, đam mê và mất rất nhiều thời gian cho những thú vui vô bổ, không có tác dụng gì cho việc trưởng thành và tăng trưởng về trí tuệ. Vậy mà cứ tưởng “ăn” được nhiều. Hãy chú ý…
A dog and a bone
Bumping into this little one dog who is very focusing on what he does and it reminds me a lesson from Monk Ajahn Chah. It is only the bone, nothing left, but the dog is still working very hard on it. Spend a lot of time on it.
We find ourselves in that picture. We usually see ourselves cute like the image of this dog, very into it, passionate and waste a lot of time for those meaningless things which don’t help us for becoming more mature and advance ourselves. But we thought that we are “eating” a lot. Be aware of that.
I’m a shy person, not being comfortable to meet with strangers. That’s really the hidden part inside of me. I’m not a public speaker or any kinda that. But but… people usually see me confident like this to do speech in public, to talk with people that I don’t know. How do I do that?
I’ve realized that once I can be myself and once I can talk about the things I’m passionate about with the depth in real experience through my life, I don’t need to have that great public speaking skills. I will talk naturally from my heart with passion and with confidence. People would buy in my passion, I believe. Then, I just need to focus on sharing what I know deeply and what I’m passionate about. That’s the secret that I believe it works for you as well.
In my trip to US early December, I had a chance to dine in a 176-year-old restaurant. What an impressing number. The restaurant is a family-run business with 5-6 generations on it already. The food was great and I liked it a lot with fresh and delicious seafood, well-served in a cold night outside, but warm inside.
The food is good, no surprise. Yet, my surprise was not the food itself, it was another one. It came to my interest once I overheard the main waiter, who hosted us, introduced about the restaurant and what they are proud of.
He stood there right behind my back, with his voice full of energy, talking about the food, the restaurant and his recommendation to us about wine and food for the night. You can’t miss the passion through his voice. Đọc tiếp “Are you proud of what you are doing?”
At the lobby of KMS office, on the way back from lunch, I met up with one of my old friends. We said hello and exchanged some joking questions… “What are you doing here?” I asked. And my friend returned: “To bother you…”
Just a joke and so… But it did spark a thought in my mind. At that moment, I replied “Who can bother me?” That’s an interesting thought. In an absolute reality, the only one can bother you is yourself, your mind. Why? Đọc tiếp “Who can bother me?”
I wrote this as part of the conversation I have maintained internally with KMSers at KMS Technology Vietnam. I and think it’s worth to share it here to everyone as well. Now, I know why I had the urge to do this slide convincing people to read before: Why do you have to read?. And the result has come after all.
We are starting the long weekend and the long holiday very soon. And I would like to share with you an email I got last weekend (see below). A moving message from one of my friends (I translated it from Vietnamese to English to be consistent with the content here). Happiness certainly comes from the moment you know that you can help others. Đọc tiếp “Happiness comes once you know that you has helped someone”
Last week, after sharing some suggestions to deal with stress, I got a few interesting questions and thoughts from one of my staff that I want to share with you here, along with my thoughts. These are not easy to answer questions for anyone I would say. The other issue is that some things that work for this one person may not work for the other person. Đọc tiếp “Higher position, attachment, greed and how to deal with it?”
The new year 2016 has come. It’s always the good time to look back. And this is one of the things I would like to share again with you on the reading topic. On the way to work today, me and my wife have talked about the fact that whoever can read and commit to read, that are the very ones to have a lot more potential to grow their career and advance their lives. My CEO, her former CEOs, our top co-workers. They are all great readers. Đọc tiếp “Reading, a proven path to advance your life”
This is what I have talked in the 1st KMS Manager Meetup last weekend. I hope whoever pursuing management career path would find it useful and applicable to be more successful at work.
This is my 10 observations, experiences in the last 5 years from learning meditation and starting doing it. I hope it can inspire you do what I’m doing now by sharing this.
I hope that by sharing my story about reading, it can inspire you to start reading, or to read more. As I believe it is one of the most effective way for you to live a better life.
During one of the sessions in the leadership development program at my company, KMS, I got an interesting question from a staff in the group. The question was “aHung, I observed that you have the tendency to be close to staff, don’t you be afraid that one day, once it’s too close, people would lose the respect of you?”
Wow, that was one of the best questions I got, once doing training or so. What would you say? Đọc tiếp “A question about respect”
In a lunch-time discussion with one of my friends today, we have talked about what would it be for an ideally happy job… What an interesting question? And as I usually see, if we don’t ask, we don’t find the answer. So, what is it, Mr. Ideally Happy Job? Đọc tiếp “An ideally happy job?”
Yesterday, I got an email asking me about if I can give some tips to help the sender to read faster, as he would like to improve his reading. Reading has become a very crucial part of my life in the last 5 years. First of all, I like reading. And at the same time reading motivates me a lot, indeed. I can be all alone the whole day, reading a book. Yet, more importantly, reading is not only just to broaden my knowledge about this world, it also help me to keep an open mind as well. As the more I read, the more I know that I don’t know a lot. Đọc tiếp “How to improve your reading speed?”
Today, it was a very special day in Vietnam, once the whole country was waving goodbye to our Legendary General Vo Nguyen Giap. It really moved me seeing millions of Vietnamese were out there on the street to show the respect to our General. This is the first time in my life to witness this, the unforgettable moment of seeing so many Vietnamese to be this close together. It did give me one thing – the belief. What happened today in the funeral of the great General is because of one and only one thing. That is him, who lived a great life, sacrificing and giving his heart and his blood for the country. And that is how he wins the hearts of millions of Vietnamese. I believe that if you can live a life of fully giving out like him, you’ll be missed, big time. May you rest in peace up there, our great General Vo Nguyen Giap. You have lived your full life for the country and all of us. You’ll be in our hearts. Đọc tiếp ““Can you help me in searching for a meaningful life?””