Tag Archives: Personal Development

Great book: 13 things mentally strong people don’t do

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In order to become a great manager with effective leadership, we certainly need to invest a lot of time to… improve and develop ourselves first. I would say that’s always true. Whenever you stay still, not advancing yourself, that’s the moment you are really moving backward. As people are keep moving advance, once you stay still. As a leader, it’s even more critical for you to learn and experience more things to advance yourselves each and everyday. While it may sound a bit stressful, I believe this will give you more rewards than anything else can give you.

With nearly 20 years in the field, I would suggest that for whatever you do, you need to find the core principles underneath of what things are happening. Once you can see those core principles underneath, you will also see things clearer. I’ll take this chance to share the 13 principles that I’m currently reading from a book named 13 things mentally strong people don’t do. By just listing them here, I do hope it sparks some suggestions in you for how you would perceive this world and what is happening to you and around you:

  1. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves
  2. They don’t give away their power
  3. They don’t shy away from change
  4. They don’t focus on things they can’t control
  5. They don’t worry about pleasing everyone
  6. They don’t fear taking calculated risks
  7. They don’t dwell on the past
  8. They don’t make the same mistakes over and over
  9. They don’t resent other people’s success
  10. They don’t give up after the first failure
  11. They don’t fear alone time
  12. They don’t feel the world owes them anything
  13. They don’t expect immediate results

Hope this is a meaningful gift for the new year, 2018. Happy New Year!

Con chó và khúc xương

Bắt gặp anh cún ni đang rất chăm chú chuyên môn và nhớ lại một bài học từ Sư Ajahn Chah. Chỉ là cục xương, không còn gì thực sự bổ béo nữa, nhưng ảnh rất chăm chú mần việc. Rất lâu.
Chúng ta cũng thế. Thường hay nhìn thấy bản thân cute / dễ thương như con cún này, đắm say, đam mê và mất rất nhiều thời gian cho những thú vui vô bổ, không có tác dụng gì cho việc trưởng thành và tăng trưởng về trí tuệ. Vậy mà cứ tưởng “ăn” được nhiều. Hãy chú ý…

English version

A dog and a bone

Bumping into this little one dog who is very focusing on what he does and it reminds me a lesson from Monk Ajahn Chah. It is only the bone, nothing left, but the dog is still working very hard on it. Spend a lot of time on it.

We find ourselves in that picture. We usually see ourselves cute like the image of this dog, very into it, passionate and waste a lot of time for those meaningless things which don’t help us for becoming more mature and advance ourselves. But we thought that we are “eating” a lot. Be aware of that.

Do you need great public speaking skills to speak to the public?

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I’m a shy person, not being comfortable to meet with strangers. That’s really the hidden part inside of me. I’m not a public speaker or any kinda that. But but… people usually see me confident like this to do speech in public, to talk with people that I don’t know. How do I do that?

I’ve realized that once I can be myself and once I can talk about the things I’m passionate about with the depth in real experience through my life, I don’t need to have that great public speaking skills. I will talk naturally from my heart with passion and with confidence. People would buy in my passion, I believe. Then, I just need to focus on sharing what I know deeply and what I’m passionate about. That’s the secret that I believe it works for you as well.

Are you proud of what you are doing?

img_6628In my trip to US early December, I had a chance to dine in a 176-year-old restaurant. What an impressing number. The restaurant is a family-run business with 5-6 generations on it already. The food was great and I liked it a lot with fresh and delicious seafood, well-served in a cold night outside, but warm inside.

The food is good, no surprise. Yet, my surprise was not the food itself, it was another one. It came to my interest once I overheard the main waiter, who hosted us, introduced about the restaurant and what they are proud of.
He stood there right behind my back, with his voice full of energy, talking about the food, the restaurant and his recommendation to us about wine and food for the night. You can’t miss the passion through his voice. Xem chi tiết…

Who can bother me?

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At the lobby of KMS office, on the way back from lunch, I met up with one of my old friends. We said hello and exchanged some joking questions… “What are you doing here?” I asked. And my friend returned: “To bother you…”

Just a joke and so… But it did spark a thought in my mind. At that moment, I replied “Who can bother me?” That’s an interesting thought. In an absolute reality, the only one can bother you is yourself, your mind. Why? Xem chi tiết…

Happiness comes once you know that you has helped someone

01I wrote this as part of the conversation I have maintained internally with KMSers at KMS Technology Vietnam. I and think it’s worth to share it here to everyone as well. Now, I know why I had the urge to do this slide convincing people to read before: Why do you have to read?. And the result has come after all.

Hello all,

We are starting the long weekend and the long holiday very soon. And I would like to share with you an email I got last weekend (see below). A moving message from one of my friends (I translated it from Vietnamese to English to be consistent with the content here). Happiness certainly comes from the moment you know that you can help others. Xem chi tiết…

Higher position, attachment, greed and how to deal with it?

Avatar 2014Last week, after sharing some suggestions to deal with stress, I got a few interesting questions and thoughts from one of my staff that I want to share with you here, along with my thoughts. These are not easy to answer questions for anyone I would say. The other issue is that some things that work for this one person may not work for the other person. Xem chi tiết…

Reading, a proven path to advance your life

The new year 2016 has come. It’s always the good time to look back. And this is one of the things I would like to share again with you on the reading topic. On the way to work today, me and my wife have talked about the fact that whoever can read and commit to read, that are the very ones to have a lot more potential to grow their career and advance their lives. My CEO, her former CEOs, our top co-workers. They are all great readers. Xem chi tiết…