Tôi tình cờ đọc được câu chuyện dân gian của người Cherokee (một tộc người thổ dân Bắc Mỹ) đầy ý nghĩa này. Thấy câu chuyện quá ý nghĩa, nên tôi dịch sang tiếng Việt ở đây để có thể chia sẻ đến với mọi người. Phiên bản gốc tiếng Anh ở bên dưới nhé.
Hai con chó sói
Một cụ già người Cherokee dạy người cháu của cụ về cuộc sống. “Có một trận chiến đang diễn ra ở bên trong con người của ông”, cụ nói với người cháu trai.
“Một cuộc chiến kinh khủng con ạ, giữa hai con chó sói. Một bên là con chó sói của quỉ dữ… đó là hiện thân của giận dữ, sự thèm muốn, đố kị, sự khổ đau, nuối tiếc, lòng tham, sự kiêu ngạo, tự ti, cảm giác tội lỗi, sự thấp kém, dối trá, sự tự hào một cách giả dối, tự cao, tự đại và hiện thân của một cái tôi (tự ngã) to lớn.” Ông tiếp tục: “Con sói kia là một con sói tử tế. Nó là hiện thân của niềm vui, sự bình an, sự yêu thương, hy vọng, sự thanh thản, khiêm tốn, sự tử tế, tấm lòng nhân từ, rộng lượng, sự cảm thông, rộng rãi, chân lý, lòng trắc ẩn, và niềm tin.
Ở bên trong con người con cũng như bao người khác, ai cũng có cùng một cuộc chiến như thế đang xảy ra trong mỗi một giây phút.”
Người cháu suy nghĩ về lời dạy trong chốc lát và sau đó hỏi ông: “Vậy thì con sói nào sẽ chiến thắng?”
Người ông đáp một cách đơn giản: “Con sói mà con cho nó ăn.”
Vâng, chúng ta không thể đổ lỗi cho ai trong cuộc sống này về những gì chúng ta đang phải gánh chịu hoặc tận hưởng. Chính thức ăn tâm hồn mà chúng ta nạp vào hàng ngày là yếu tố quyết định cho những gì mỗi một chúng ta xứng đáng được hưởng ngay tại thời điểm bây giờ cũng như mai sau. Xem chi tiết…
After starting to viral this question “What would make you happy?“, I have received quite many answers on the first day. It’s very exciting reading all the answers. One young person has responded as below.
“Be, just be, being myself, be a part of this universe… Just be, nothing more, nothing less… So then I can experience everything that life can / has to offer.”
From a young person between 22-30.
Wonderful, don’t you agree? Do you have your own answer? If you do, fill in the form as commitment for your own happiness. There are a few notes here:
There is no such right or wrong answer to this question. The answer is for yourself to experience, for your own happiness.
If you haven’t had the answer, start searching one for yourself and start stepping on your happiness journey.
Being able to articulate the answer to this question is really a great step to commit to live up to the values that you think it would bring you happiness. Xem chi tiết…
In order to become a great manager with effective leadership, we certainly need to invest a lot of time to… improve and develop ourselves first. I would say that’s always true. Whenever you stay still, not advancing yourself, that’s the moment you are really moving backward. As people are keep moving advance, once you stay still. As a leader, it’s even more critical for you to learn and experience more things to advance yourselves each and everyday. While it may sound a bit stressful, I believe this will give you more rewards than anything else can give you.
With nearly 20 years in the field, I would suggest that for whatever you do, you need to find the core principles underneath of what things are happening. Once you can see those core principles underneath, you will also see things clearer. I’ll take this chance to share the 13 principles that I’m currently reading from a book named 13 things mentally strong people don’t do. By just listing them here, I do hope it sparks some suggestions in you for how you would perceive this world and what is happening to you and around you:
They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves
They don’t give away their power
They don’t shy away from change
They don’t focus on things they can’t control
They don’t worry about pleasing everyone
They don’t fear taking calculated risks
They don’t dwell on the past
They don’t make the same mistakes over and over
They don’t resent other people’s success
They don’t give up after the first failure
They don’t fear alone time
They don’t feel the world owes them anything
They don’t expect immediate results
Hope this is a meaningful gift for the new year, 2018. Happy New Year!
Bắt gặp anh cún ni đang rất chăm chú chuyên môn và nhớ lại một bài học từ Sư Ajahn Chah. Chỉ là cục xương, không còn gì thực sự bổ béo nữa, nhưng ảnh rất chăm chú mần việc. Rất lâu.
Chúng ta cũng thế. Thường hay nhìn thấy bản thân cute / dễ thương như con cún này, đắm say, đam mê và mất rất nhiều thời gian cho những thú vui vô bổ, không có tác dụng gì cho việc trưởng thành và tăng trưởng về trí tuệ. Vậy mà cứ tưởng “ăn” được nhiều. Hãy chú ý…
A dog and a bone
Bumping into this little one dog who is very focusing on what he does and it reminds me a lesson from Monk Ajahn Chah. It is only the bone, nothing left, but the dog is still working very hard on it. Spend a lot of time on it.
We find ourselves in that picture. We usually see ourselves cute like the image of this dog, very into it, passionate and waste a lot of time for those meaningless things which don’t help us for becoming more mature and advance ourselves. But we thought that we are “eating” a lot. Be aware of that.
I’m a shy person, not being comfortable to meet with strangers. That’s really the hidden part inside of me. I’m not a public speaker or any kinda that. But but… people usually see me confident like this to do speech in public, to talk with people that I don’t know. How do I do that?
I’ve realized that once I can be myself and once I can talk about the things I’m passionate about with the depth in real experience through my life, I don’t need to have that great public speaking skills. I will talk naturally from my heart with passion and with confidence. People would buy in my passion, I believe. Then, I just need to focus on sharing what I know deeply and what I’m passionate about. That’s the secret that I believe it works for you as well.
In my trip to US early December, I had a chance to dine in a 176-year-old restaurant. What an impressing number. The restaurant is a family-run business with 5-6 generations on it already. The food was great and I liked it a lot with fresh and delicious seafood, well-served in a cold night outside, but warm inside.
The food is good, no surprise. Yet, my surprise was not the food itself, it was another one. It came to my interest once I overheard the main waiter, who hosted us, introduced about the restaurant and what they are proud of.
He stood there right behind my back, with his voice full of energy, talking about the food, the restaurant and his recommendation to us about wine and food for the night. You can’t miss the passion through his voice. Xem chi tiết…
At the lobby of KMS office, on the way back from lunch, I met up with one of my old friends. We said hello and exchanged some joking questions… “What are you doing here?” I asked. And my friend returned: “To bother you…”
Just a joke and so… But it did spark a thought in my mind. At that moment, I replied “Who can bother me?” That’s an interesting thought. In an absolute reality, the only one can bother you is yourself, your mind. Why? Xem chi tiết…
I wrote this as part of the conversation I have maintained internally with KMSers at KMS Technology Vietnam. I and think it’s worth to share it here to everyone as well. Now, I know why I had the urge to do this slide convincing people to read before: Why do you have to read?. And the result has come after all.
We are starting the long weekend and the long holiday very soon. And I would like to share with you an email I got last weekend (see below). A moving message from one of my friends (I translated it from Vietnamese to English to be consistent with the content here). Happiness certainly comes from the moment you know that you can help others. Xem chi tiết…
Last week, after sharing some suggestions to deal with stress, I got a few interesting questions and thoughts from one of my staff that I want to share with you here, along with my thoughts. These are not easy to answer questions for anyone I would say. The other issue is that some things that work for this one person may not work for the other person.Xem chi tiết…
The new year 2016 has come. It’s always the good time to look back. And this is one of the things I would like to share again with you on the reading topic. On the way to work today, me and my wife have talked about the fact that whoever can read and commit to read, that are the very ones to have a lot more potential to grow their career and advance their lives. My CEO, her former CEOs, our top co-workers. They are all great readers. Xem chi tiết…
During one of the sessions in the leadership development program at my company, KMS, I got an interesting question from a staff in the group. The question was “aHung, I observed that you have the tendency to be close to staff, don’t you be afraid that one day, once it’s too close, people would lose the respect of you?”
Wow, that was one of the best questions I got, once doing training or so. What would you say?Xem chi tiết…
In a lunch-time discussion with one of my friends today, we have talked about what would it be for an ideally happy job… What an interesting question? And as I usually see, if we don’t ask, we don’t find the answer. So, what is it, Mr. Ideally Happy Job?Xem chi tiết…
Yesterday, I got an email asking me about if I can give some tips to help the sender to read faster, as he would like to improve his reading. Reading has become a very crucial part of my life in the last 5 years. First of all, I like reading. And at the same time reading motivates me a lot, indeed. I can be all alone the whole day, reading a book. Yet, more importantly, reading is not only just to broaden my knowledge about this world, it also help me to keep an open mind as well. As the more I read, the more I know that I don’t know a lot.Xem chi tiết…
Today, it was a very special day in Vietnam, once the whole country was waving goodbye to our Legendary General Vo Nguyen Giap. It really moved me seeing millions of Vietnamese were out there on the street to show the respect to our General. This is the first time in my life to witness this, the unforgettable moment of seeing so many Vietnamese to be this close together. It did give me one thing – the belief. What happened today in the funeral of the great General is because of one and only one thing. That is him, who lived a great life, sacrificing and giving his heart and his blood for the country. And that is how he wins the hearts of millions of Vietnamese. I believe that if you can live a life of fully giving out like him, you’ll be missed, big time. May you rest in peace up there, our great General Vo Nguyen Giap. You have lived your full life for the country and all of us. You’ll be in our hearts.Xem chi tiết…
I got this one question in CIO Network group from Linkedin.com. I did share my thought there and I will paste it here to share once again. While it works for CIO role, I would think you can change it with the other C title and it works with the same principle as well.
From Tej Powar – Senior .NET Developer at Lloyds Banking Group
One of my ambitions is to become a CIO. Thought it would be good to get an insight of how some people have reached there. I understand alot of hard work and commitment is required which I have got. But any tips to working towards becoming a CIO would be great.
Khi bạn ngồi xuống, nhắm mắt lại để tĩnh tâm, sẽ không còn sự khác biệt giữa một nguyên thủ quốc gia và một phó thường dân, không còn sự khác biệt giữa một giám đốc và nhân viên, không còn sự khác biệt giữa một đại gia và một người nghèo khó, không còn sự khác biệt giữa một người hạnh phúc và một người đang mang nhiều khổ đau nữa. Mọi thứ đều giống nhau và cuộc sống rất công bằng ở khía cạnh này. Không có sự khác biệt nữa, bởi vì tâm bạn đang hướng vào trong, quay trở lại với bản chất thực có của tâm mình. Đó là lúc bạn nhìn vào bên trong, thay vì nhìn ra bên ngoài và so sánh. Ai cũng cần phải nhìn vào bên trong, mới có thể thực sự phát triển được các tiềm năng tâm linh của bản thân, để có thể trở nên ý nghĩa hơn, hạnh phúc hơn trong cuộc sống này.
Hãy hành thiền!
Once you sit down and close your eyes to calm your mind, there will not be difference between a Prime Minister and a civilian, no difference between a CEO and a staff, no difference between a rich and a poor, no difference between a person fully in happiness and a person being burdened with too much suffering. Things suddenly become equal and life is fair from this angle. There is no difference because your mind is now steering backward to the insight, to the true self. That’s once you are looking into yourself, rather than looking outside and compare. One need to look inside in order to really un-earth and grow your spiritual potential, in order to become more meaningful, happier in this very life.